Damn. These topics are always tough because we want there to be a system or way to go about serious and complicated issues like this, but it isn't a one-size-fits-all. There is a way though to dig deeper into how this works and became.

Ask questions. That is the most important tool of all for conquering issues.

Pertaining to this specific case (and this can go for any) some questions (in my line perceiving the conversation) to ask would be,
When did you start thinking this way? Is it a reoccurring obstacle in your daily life? Have you ever talked about it with someone? Has it been discussed with parents or friends and family members? When you see yourself or imagine yourself, are you someone different? What do you think a boy/man or girl/woman is? Does believing or thinking you are who you are make you feel better or does it suppress other feelings and thoughts?

We all recognize mental health as a component to this because, oddly enough, when depression, anxiety and isolation became the norm in our society so did the idea of "gender theory". With that there seems to be an attack on biology as if that is what is the issue- the realities of the human structure and life because that is a set of logic being denied.

So other questions to ask as a whole for this concept would be,
Is the correlation the causation? How did this come about? Why is transgenderism practice and acceptance more widespread through modern generations compared to previous? Why is that some US states have higher capita rates of transgender individuals compared to others? Is the change in education curriculum encouraging students? How much is psychological to biological? Is it more so societal "trend" and not just who a person is biologically and psychologically? Why are some schools and states taking children away from parents and "prescribing" them therapy, treatments and surgeries without parental consent or knowledge?

My main issue is the arrogance, narrow-minded, arguementative and toxicity of how its being talked and treated. I know there can't be a wrong question, but there can be a wrong outcome. So far in our efforts of conveying ideas and reaching some sort of resolution, no matter how big or small, isn’t working. We must tread tediously on the subject. This isn’t a math theory being debated or discussed about. This is human life.